Kappell Family Blog

In life we all go through changes. They can come in all kids of different ways and forms. Emotion, physical, mental etc.

No matter what they are we can find ourselves in a place of discomfort and frustration. This can lead us to be unhappy with ourselves the ones around us our job and a list of other things.

The problem is we tend to react immediately to the situation we we find ourselves in at that moment. We don’t stop and think we just react, it’s the fight or flight mechanism built into us. I’m not saying that is a bad thing, however our first reaction tends not to be the best one. This can be a positive thing when it comes to making changes that need to happen NOW. However most of the time we act to hasty and can find ourselves in place we hate, a place we thought was going to be better….

This is a good example of the grass is green on the other side of the fence… The problem is when you get to the other side it is no longer the greener side. Most of us will look outward for something better or with the appearance of being better. We will work towards that change of scenery rather then assess whats going on right where we are. Don’t get me wrong you don’t want to dwell on something for to long.

If we would just invest the time to water, seed, fertilize and manicure our own lawn we could have the grass we want. The lawn we worked on the one we made could be the envy of the neighborhood.

So what does this have to do with anything? Simple, take the time and invest in your our life, the ones you love the things you have. Don’t just give up with out trying. And I don’t me just sitting there staring and waiting for something to happen. Make it happen.

You have to invest into what you want. Everything takes work, sometimes it is easy and others times it is hard.

Hello,

I know this seems out of the blue since I have not been able to update or to post anything new on the website in a while

I would like to introduce Jayden Michael Kappell, born June 12th, 2008 at ll:37 pm at Chandler Regional Hospital. He weighed 10 pounds and 11 ounces, and is 21 – 1/2 inches long.

Unfortunately we found out on the day we were going home that he has a fractured collar bone on his right should. On top of this he was circumcised and had his shots all in one day. Needles to say he had a rough day

 
Here are picturesBaby Jayden

Being I parent carries a lot of responsibilities. As a parent we have made a choice to put our children before ourselves. To make sure that we do our best to instill in them good values to enable them to make good decisions in their life’s as young adults and as a grown adult. When do see if all our efforts have failed or succeeded in our children? Will our children see our hard efforts to make their life better through the instructions we have laid before them? Will all that we have given be for nothing? These and a great deal of other question plague my thoughts late in to many sleepless nights.

But there is also the area of learning how and when to draw then line of when to be their father or their friend. This is a hard feat to accomplish the older they get. You want to be their friend and their buddy. On the other hand you need them to take you serious, and understand certain issues need to be taken seriously. I love my kids want them to know no matter what I will always be there for them, to try and guide them in their times of need. And hope that then know they can come to me with anything and I will understand.

I love my family and I especially love all my children each in there own special way. Nonetheless I love them with out reservation and nothing they say or do will ever change the way I love and care for them. All I want for my children is to have the best in life so my struggles and hardship that I have lived and seen are left with me and not passed on to my children. So there children’s life can be even more glorious then theirs.

To my kids who I love with all my heart I know I am hard on you at times and you cannot see or understand exactly why. You may not see why that is, but I tell you it is for your benefit and I hope you believe me when I say that. I try to explain the reason why the best I can. I hope one day you can look back and say, I now see what it was that you were trying to get me to see and understand. I know in life you see or hear things that you don’t quite understand, but are reviled to you at in time in life. Life is a mystery and out father intended it to be that way. Some things are seen clearly and yet others are seen through abstraction, left up to us to piece together what we are to do. However the path is always there!

All I have to say is this woman is my dreams come true. I love her so much I really don’t know what I would do without her. she has been my best friend for 17 years and the love of my life for the last 15 years. I never knew that love could be so powerful. There is nothing I would not do for her.

We are doing very well these last few months I think. Oh course it does not matter what I think cause I am wrong. . . Just kidding!

We are trying to have our 4th child yes we are trying to have another little girl. Simply because we messed the last one up and would like a do over! ! ! Ha man I am funny. No we want and have planned on having one for sometime now. I hope to spend the rest of my life with her I love her more than words could ever describe.

Hello,

Well I know it has been a long time since I have left a new comment so I will do my best to catch you up.

We have been in our house for over a year now and all the kids have made it another year. The kids are getting so big. All are doing well in school, except Joshua he is struggling a little, but he is trying to do his best. We have him in after school tutoring. Anthony is an “A” and “B” student and Chantell . . . . . Well she is doing what she can.

Anthony was attacked by a dog a few months ago here are Pictures. It was bad, but it could have been worse. He is o.k. now and I hope to have the Pictures of the bite wounds up ASAP.

Joshua in deep in love with girls these days. . . Funny though he has been grounded for almost two months now. UMMM. . . wonder what he did. I wont and can’t get into that.

Chantell is a little princes and the best behaved child you have ever seen in your life. NOT !! she is a good girl except she is a little whiner and well completly spoiled.

As for me I am trying to keep my word more theses days and look for another job and do something more fulfilling. I have learned allot these last few months about myself and what I want. The next step in putting things in motion to get those thing done.

Mom and Dad are doing well and have help Carrie and I out allot. They are in this just as much as we are. Dad has been at his job over a year now and mom is getting another job closer to the house since Dad has to drive her to and from work.

Sherrie and Eric are still together. Sherrie has been a great help to us as well. Even though she is mean and loud all the time to everyone we all still love her.. On that note we are excepting applications for her position in the family. We require that you be at least 18 years, nice attitude also have a job! Please summit your resumes.

Out of all my children I would have to say that Anthony and I are the most alike. We have same sense of humor aditude and anger. His temper is quick, he has what is called the “Short fuse” problem. Any little thing can set him off. Last night his sister made a mess and Anthony told her to pick it up. Of course she has not going to so he got mad when she threw a straw at him, and then he pushed her into the wall. I was not home yet at the time this happened or it would have never got that far in the first place.

Well I got home and sat him down and asked him what the deal was? He told me his story and that he was sorry. I told him look son I know you! I know your anger I know how you feel inside. I explained to him that I had the same anger as a kid. I told him that anger will not get you anywhere but in trouble. I said son anger is a hard emotion to control, but you have to learn how to deal with it in a better way. Anger blinds you it will control and consume you inside and out. I let him know that, I as a kid had a very hard time controlling my anger and it got the best of me and I wound up in allot of trouble for it.

I let him know that for all the hopes and dreams he has in life and the things he wants to become, that if he can’t control his anger then he will never be able to accomplish what he needs to in order to reach those goals. The conversation was longer than this and I am keep some of those things we shard last night to myself. I hope I helped him and he should know I will always be there for him he is my nee nee my little big man and I love him and all my kids.

For the first time in a while i felt like a good father last night! i felt like I was doing my part in his life to making him a good person so he can become a good man!

Well another Valentine’s Day came and went. Nothing special happened got Carrie some flowers and a card. Then we had something to eat. I was bummed cause I did not win the lottery not even close.

Yesterday my oldest son got a nice fat black eye. It looks nice but to bad he did not fight back though. I do not encourage the kids to fight but you just can’t let people come up to you and smack you around. Anyway peeps that is it for now

Love ya peace

Hello Everybody.

Well 2007 is here and 2006 in behind us. The family had a good Christmas and a very boring new year. New things to look foward to this year. Me and Carrie’s 15th aniversery is this month on the 10th. Very exciting seeing’s how I did not think we would make it at times, but we did none the less and things Seem to be going well for us.

The kids will all be turning a year older very soon. I will hit the ripe old age of 30 this year. I hope to have new pictures and to keep up on family events better. I work two jobs right now and I don’t see that changing any time soon. As a matter of fact I am at work right now writing this.

Bye for now! ! ! : )

Dear Baby,

“Hi, Baby, I love you,” that’s always how we start. Those five simple words always bring a smile to my face and song to my heart. I am just writing this here because it’s the only way I know that I can shout to the world I love you!

I know things have been rough between us with all the time we spend apart, and the way I have been acting lately. But we have been together going on 14 years, and they have been the best years of my life. And I know I would love to spend the rest of my life loving you, and being with you.

I can remember all the times we were together good and bad. I remember taking walks with you taking that picture in the mall in the photo booth when we were young. I was happy then and am still, as long as you are in my life.

I will always put a special spot of you in my heart. No matter where I go, I carry you in me. I’m hoping that it is you, Carrie, who feels the same way as I do. Remember, I love you!

There are no words to express the gratitude I feel in my heart that our hearts have come to dwell together, as one. You are my life, my heart, my soul. You are my best friend. You are my one true love. The day we met was fate. Our lives intertwining was fate. You are my destiny. I love you more today than I did yesterday, and I’ll love you more tomorrow than I do today. Love is the only thing that makes life worth living. Your love. With all my heart I am forever yours.

I want you also to know that you have become someone very special in my life and I thank you for welcoming me into yours. Thank you for filling my life with love and making each day so wonderful.

I love with every heartbeat and my every breath.

Love always,

Phillip the one who is always there>

Life and the decisions we make are ruff in itself. We all have been faced with making decisions we do it every day. Some are trivial and are without for the most part consequences. But then there are good decisions and there are bad ones. The good ones are easy to deal with because the only real regret is that I should have done it sooner, or just a little better.

The bad decisions are the worst to deal with and handle. For the most part I would say we know when we are going to make a bad decision that we will regret. How we know is simple. If you ever have found yourself trying to convince yourself that it is not a bad decision or, that you lie, deceive, or trick yourself into it, well then you can expect to have a bad experience.

Today the Kappell family had what I will only say as one of its so far, most regrettable days. You know one of those heart-sinking feelings. It is hard to accept curtain things at times, especially the ones you know you want to forget, but will never be able to. So you do the only thing you can, learn for this situation and move on. The hardest part I think is being able to see what you did wrong, so you can learn from it.

Moving on is very hard to do; most people aren’t ready to do what it takes to move on. I think what that is, is to be able to except the fate of the situation and realize there is nothing you can do to fix it. You can however make sure you never do it again, by admitting your mistake to yourself and know that what is done is done. Take a deep breath and move on! !

There is no sense in dwelling on your past, it will only pull you down and hurt and destroy you and the one around you. I am not saying forget what happened, just be able to move on when it is time.